It will get better… or so they say

I have always been a morning person but I have never thought that I would fall in love with mornings that deeply… morning is when all the character and personality of our little bundle of joy comes out. Smiles and laughter light up early morning hours brighter than the sunshine. Who would ever guess that just a couple of hours ago he was driving his daddy crazy by crying his eyes out because he couldn’t fall asleep. 

I love how sympathetic people are when you have a newborn; “congratulations” is immediately followed by “it will get better”. I want to reply “it’s not that bad”, I remember the first two weeks were the hardest. You are adjusting to being a new parent and a lack of sleep and at the same time overwhelmed by love and desire to satisfy that little being’s every wish. Our baby on the other hand is overwhelmed by the world around him and trying to adjust to all the changes his little body is going through. You and your little one are developing your own language with no words but cries, hugs, kisses and a check list. Yes! I figured it out, Oscar keeps a check list: if it’s not hunger, must be a dirty diaper, if not a dirty diaper, must be a burp or fart, if it’s not that then he is tired or bored. The amazing thing is that he doesn’t know what bothers him either.  

 And you have to move through check list fast otherwise he will work himself up and it will take forever to calm him down.  In this process I realized that parenting is a synonym to being creative. If some pacifying technique or a song worked this time it doesn’t mean it will work tomorrow. You have to keep changing, evolving, and perfecting your way of rocking, singing, moving, talking, and playing.

  

I have to admit that I am one of those lucky wives whose husband is always ready to take over when you feel that your patience and ability to continue is wearing off. Honestly, I don’t understand what those ladies in the birth class were talking about when saying that the relationship with your partner will suffer from having a baby. I feel it did the opposite for us. It brought us even closer together. We work as a team with love and support. We know that we can fully rely on each other and it makes our love and desire for one another grow in trifolds. It’s been two months we first met our baby boy… What? Already? And it IS getting better… there are hard and frustrating days and there are easy and exciting days, but there is no word to describe how incredible it is to be a family.